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faymouse
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 Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 12:34:51 AM
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Because I suffer from agoraphobia so no good at travelling too far from home I have missed out on the chance of a really lovely Arab mare on loan as she is just too far for me to cope with.
Although kind friends have offered to take me I am afraid I will get panic attack.
It's an awful thing to suffer as fellow agrophobics will know,makes your life so limited.
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Mrs Vlacq
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 12:59:49 AM
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Aw that's a real shame... but maybe something better is around the corner - so to speak!
it must be a strange thing to suffer from - I guess no-one would ever understand it unless they suffered too |
    
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Rowanmore
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England
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 08:56:36 AM
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| so sorry you are feeling a bit down. I too hope your dream horse is just around the corner. Take care and best wishes. |
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deebee
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 10:12:21 AM
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That sounds like a real shame! maybe you can think of it as a 'sliding doors' moment - you never know what's around the corner (sorry, been done I know...) and this could have been wrong for you in the long run (y'know, fate and all that?)
When the right one comes it'll all work out for you!
On a different note, sorry if I'm going over old ground but have you heard of cognitive behaviour therapy? It's new to me but I'm finding it really effective against the 'black dog' (depression etc) that I have. You probably have, but I thought it might be helpful if you haven't!  |
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Gerri
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England
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 10:38:21 AM
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Hi, my heart goes out to you, I suffer with depression on and off for the last five years and it can totally screw up your life so I know exactly how you are feeling, so am sending you big hugs I hope you find something soon, also you could explain this to the seller and maybe they would send you video and pics to save you the journey and ask people if the seller is genuine so that will help you be confident that what you have seen in authentic,x |
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Joto
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 11:33:56 AM
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Goldenmane
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 12:04:45 PM
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Can I echo Deebee in that it probably was'nt meant to be. Good advice from everyone, big hug from me. Not agrophobic but I do hate being out of my comfort zone! I think you were very brave posting this. |
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precious
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 2:22:09 PM
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Big hug,
I know how hard it can be my 21year old cousin is just trying to leave her house after being too scared to leave for over 2years. Slow steedy progress is better than overding it x
Sounds like your doing really well, and yes you will find your pefect loan horse a bit closer xx
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bridie
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 6:02:57 PM
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Sorry to hear your down.....where are you based? and how far are you comfortable to travel? maybe someone here can help.
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DenmoorStud
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 6:10:32 PM
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kirst
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 10:24:40 PM
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Sorry to hear you are down. Try to stay positive. Sometimes good things happen when you are not expecting it. I hope you are posting on here fairly soon to tell us all you have found a wonderful mare!!
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faymouse
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 11:52:39 PM
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wow, can't get over how understanding you all are,thanks so much makes me feel so much better.
Don't really know about cognitive behaviour therapy though I did go for some counselling at one point which helped a lot. I can now travel a fair way but it is the sort of thing that one day you cope better than another.
I have explained to the lovely lady who owns the mare and she has been so understanding.I asked her if I could send a friend in my place! sounds silly I know but was the only option I could think of.
My greatest sympathy goes out to all who are troubled by similar ailments,you can feel so alone. As said by Mrs VLacq says ,only those who suffer these problems know how incapacitating and frustrating it is. Makes me feel a wimp! |
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DenmoorStud
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Posted - 05 Jun 2009 : 08:20:33 AM
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In my experience, it is those who are caring and sensitive , who invariably suffer with this, and I have to say the world in its present state is not helpful and one can end up feeling lonely, but you will find friendship and support on AL.
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deebee
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Posted - 05 Jun 2009 : 08:22:21 AM
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Faymouse don't feel bad! We all have our problems and can empathise; nobody should feel silly or wrong for having something they find difficult to deal with - so we don't allow that sort of talk, do we!!!
'Cognitive Behaviour Therapy for dummies' is a brilliant book and could help a lot of people - available on a well-known internet site; it's basically common sense that makes you go 'oh, of course!' when you are reading it. I got it for my depression, but my partner has found it useful too as it brought out loads of stuff he didn't even know he had, that had been causing him problems in the background for a long time! It gives you real tools and confidence to deal with 'stuff'.
And definitely get us to help, if we can - although it sounds like you've got the lady on your side already! |
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Eeyore
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Posted - 05 Jun 2009 : 09:29:09 AM
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I just want to say that I really feel for you, it must be so frustrating. I don't have any useful advice but wanted to wish you all the luck in the world finding your dream horse  |
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faymouse
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 06 Jun 2009 : 1:41:02 PM
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I feel amoung friends on AL,you are all so understanding it's great of you. I think it must be something special that is in Arab horse lovers!!
I will see about getting that book Davina, it sounds well worth a look,anything that may help is worth a try. Thanks to you all again and I wish you all happinessand contentment in your lives |
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Montikka
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Posted - 07 Jun 2009 : 09:38:59 AM
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Awwww faymouse, I do sympathise - it's very limiting to have anxiety problems (I also suffer from depression) one day can be so much worse than another, and sometimes you wonder if you'll ever recover.
I think Denise is right - Arabs do seem to attract sensitive, caring people, who in turn, are very aware of their feelings, this can lead to emotional problems.
I agree that you are brave to post, and hasn't it shown how you are not alone? - I've been quite surprised by how many people on here find some aspects of life difficult.
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mittens
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 07 Jun 2009 : 09:47:11 AM
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| I totally understand,hence my earlier post regarding going on holiday when I'd much rather stay here where I feel "safe". I also suffer depression and am dreading starting my new job tomorrow because I don't feel confident driving out of my little comfort zone! As others have said,some days are easier to deal with than others but you mustn't beat yourself up about it and you certainly aren't a wimp |
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faymouse
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 07 Jun 2009 : 1:41:57 PM
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Sorry to hear that you suffer too Montikka and thank you for your kind wordsXX
Mittens you have my sympathy for tomorrow but I am sure it will be fine. Don't you think that sometimes the worry beforehand is worse than the actual event?XX |
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