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Evie
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 Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 12:52:35 AM
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I am currently in Vancouver with a friend I made in Cayman, she used to work there, but moved back to here (she is from here) in July last year. When she was there we got on really well and had some good times together. She was always very supportive when I was having men troubles and she had been through a lot of similar situations, we are similar age too.
Now i've come to visit her here though it's a completely different story. As this is her home she has all her family and friends here. I didn't realise that her and her family share their house with about 8 or 9 live in students (she didn't tell me this before I arrived) so I am sleeping in the living room right by the front door and it has no door on it so I have no privacy and nothing to shut out any noise.
She also didn't tell me that she wouldn't be taking time off work while I was here so I more or less have to amuse myself all day, with it being the middle of their winter and there being a lot of snow (more than they usually get here) it's difficult to get around without turning into an iceblock!
I am currently sitting in her office (no one else works here) while she's off 'interviewing' someone in Starbucks! She said she'd be about an hour and it's been two already!
I just looked at flights back to Cayman tomorrow online and they're actually quite cheap..
I don't know what to do as I'd like to stay and see more of the City, but that would mean trying to get around by myself on public transport (she lives about 30 minutes drive from the city centre), but I am feeling so tired from not getting much sleep and also fed up at not being able to spend time with someone who I thought was my friend and was looking forward to seeing me and spending time with me.
What do you think I should do??
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Edited by - Evie on 29 Jan 2008 12:53:08 AM
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aderyn
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 01:21:35 AM
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Evvie possibly being the only up at this time of night and having just read your post I think you should stick it out and enjoy the delights of the country you are in - you have already spent a lot getting there so make the most of things. if possible check out of your friends house and into a hotel get talking to some locals and go out and see what the place has to offer - try googling arabs in canada never know might be some horses near you - we can always talk horses and friends to be made. Anyway sorry that your friend aint what she seemed to be but then thats life - putting it into perspective bit like a blind date really never know what your getting till you get there - your friend in inverted commas doesnt seem interested so make the most of your holiday and enjoy yourself. By the way whee are the Cayman Islands - duh ignorant! And sorry that the Merkin thing is bothering you - promise it was only meant to be a bit of fun.
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georgiauk
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 07:15:07 AM
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Why not have a look at YMCA , we stayed there and it was fine, clean, quiet and cheap. From memory the transport system is good and Vancouver is a gorgeous place to see, you must at least get to Gastown ( you got to see the clock  )the Aquarium and Stanley Park. All quite close to each other in the heart of the City. You'll regret going home soon. Get on the net and sort out some travel arrangements  |
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shah
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 08:25:40 AM
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Go skiing You're only a couple of hours away from Whistler, there are buses from Vancouver. Go and spend a couple of days on the slopes, skiiers are a friendly lot too
Agree with the others - find a small hotel or b&b, maybe a bit closer to town where you can get your own room. I often prefer sightseeing on my own, you can choose where you go and what you do yourself without having to compromise and go to places you don't enjoy or drag the other person along to something they find boring. |
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LYNDILOU
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 08:55:14 AM
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I agree with Nick, stick it out and make the best of it, put it all down to experience. Your friend is still your freind and the fact that she invited you to stay means she wants you there. Next time she has to go and interveiw someone, ask if you can go along for the ride. the Cayman is beautiful, but you do that all year long, you will have a giggle about this once your home, but dont fall out with your friend over it. |
   
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Vera
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 09:10:11 AM
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Perhaps you could ask your friend to take the day off, I really don't think that should be too much trouble for her. I'd also mention the privacy or lack of, just mention it makes you feel uncomfortable - bet she'll try to sort things out and if she doesn't thatn she's not a friend and I'd call it quits, put it down to experience and either get a room in a hotel in town or go home.
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Pixie
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 09:19:46 AM
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| life is too short to be unhappy. do what makes you happy. |
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Judith S
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Evie
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 10:42:20 PM
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Hi guys, you're all right and such great people here on AL again for the wonderful advice - thank you all! Things have gotten a bit better today, I think I was just feeling fed up because I've still got this stupid cough that I've had for about five weeks now which means it's difficult to get out in the cold and snow and the weather isn't helping either as it snowed lots more last night and some today as well although it has stopped now! This is apparently very strange for Vancouver as they don't usually get this amount of snow (probably about 30cm in the last three days!) even at this time of year!
Anyway am gonna keep drinking a lot of tea with honey and lemon and had some soup for lunch and my cough is starting to feel better so hopefully I'll be better by the weekend and will be able to get out and do stuff whether it be on my own or with my friend. Am here for two weeks so hopefully have plenty of time to get better and still get out and about to see lots of good stuff before I go back to Cayman!
Thanks again, and don't worry Nick i don't mind about the Merkins really! :) and the Caymans are in the Caribbean. |
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jane79
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Posted - 29 Jan 2008 : 11:05:00 PM
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hi evie hope you are feeling better soon. why is it that whenever we have holidays or time off we always end up being ill? its so frustrating, then we are as fit as a fiddle (oops thats a bit corny) when its time to go back to work.
I hope you decide to stay on and do some sight seeing etc, as you may not get the chance for a while. It does seem a bit rude of your friend leaving you on your own while shes working!
Hope things work out okay xx |
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bluehaven
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Posted - 30 Jan 2008 : 03:42:05 AM
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| Did your friend tell you she'd be able to get time off work for your visit? Did you ask her?I get overseas visitors and if I'm working I expect them to understand that I'll be boring and not able to spend as much time as I'd like to with them.If you are HER friend too maybe you might try to understand her situation-at least talk to her about it-don't seethe in silence! |
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bluehaven
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Posted - 30 Jan 2008 : 04:02:55 AM
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| Did your friend tell you she'd be able to get time off work for your visit? Did you ask her?I get overseas visitors and if I'm working I expect them to understand that I'll be boring and not able to spend as much time as I'd like to with them.If you are HER friend too maybe you might try to understand her situation-at least talk to her about it-don't seethe in silence! |
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bluehaven
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Posted - 30 Jan 2008 : 04:04:40 AM
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| Did your friend tell you she'd be able to get time off work for your visit? Did you ask her?I get overseas visitors and if I'm working I expect them to understand that I'll be boring and not able to spend as much time as I'd like to with them.If you are HER friend too maybe you might try to understand her situation-at least talk to her about it-don't seethe in silence! |
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Honeyb060674
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Posted - 30 Jan 2008 : 06:46:07 AM
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| Hi Evie, hope you're feeling better today? I'd give it a crack doing a bit on your own. If you don't feel like asking your friend outright to maybe spend sometime with you, ask her if she can recommend something to keep you busy during the time shes at work as its rather boring and lonely on your own. If it were me I'd take the hint! Give it a bash & whatever happens do what makes you happy...like so many of the AL wisefolk said...lifes to short hun x |
      
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bluehaven
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Posted - 30 Jan 2008 : 08:42:39 AM
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| Oh Poot,surpassf myself with repeated post this time.Sorreee!Don't mean to be unsympathetic Evie,you would have been looking forward to this holiday and seeing your friend and ending up feeling lonely retected and ill is a bitter pill to swallow.BUT a holiday is a short thing while a friendship can give you joy for life and they're not so easy to book!As you say you haven't been well so you were prob over reacting.Hope you can pull it together,have some fun and not lose your friend. |
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Evie
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Posted - 30 Jan 2008 : 8:05:47 PM
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| That's okay. The weather really isn't helping as it's still snowing!!! This is the most snow they've had here for quite a few years apparently. Hopefully it's going to start to thaw tomorrow though so we may get away for a couple of days to Seattle which will be fun! |
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joanna_piana
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Posted - 30 Jan 2008 : 8:21:13 PM
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| Oh dear poor Jo hope you start having a good time, maybe ask your friend for a few suggestions on what you can do whilst she is at work and try and organise a few sight seeing trips. |
      
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