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natntaz
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 Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 3:27:38 PM
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I have gone to put an advert on here a few times but
when it comes to actually pressing that final button
i just cant do it. I love all my horses and i feel that
my youngster is not getting enough time spent with her.
I want someone to really love and spend time with her
but my dilema is, is it better to keep her and hope that
i get more time to spend. I have three with mixed ages.
My old boy is fine, i have a 7 year old who has issues and
takes up lots of my time and needs lots more. I love my
filly as i bred and had every intention of keeping her but
feel she just isnt getting the attention she deserves. I have
also had to go back to work part time for financial reasons
so this isnt helping either. I just worry that if i do sell
her and i dont find a forever home and she gets passed round.
But if i dont just feel she will we waisted. How do you make
your decisions on to sell or not to sell ?
I would hate it and i know i would feel guilty.
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Suelin
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 3:42:49 PM
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| Oh Nat how worrying. First of all in whose opinion is the filly being wasted? If she is happy why worry? She is young yet and if you did nothing with her for 3 years it wouldn't really matter to her. In this day and age few folk can guarantee a forever home, however much they may want to. Take your time and look at it from her point of view for a bit and see if you come up with a different answer than this one. Good luck with it. |
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kimzi
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 3:57:02 PM
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Hi nat
You need to do what is best for you,if it is putting financial burden on your family then put your needs first.
She is a fab youngster and there are lots of loveley homes out there,a forever home is unrealistic in this day and age but i think none of us has a right to expect one person to take on that kind of obligation.
Follow your head on this one.
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Slave 2 Magic
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England
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 4:45:26 PM
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| Nat, I bet she doesn't think she is being wasted. As long as she's well looked after she will be happy. I don't know how old she is but I bought my mare as an unbroken 5 year old. I feel in a way it was better for her as she had chance to mature physically. She has a home for life with me. If it is financial then there will be the right home out there for her. |
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sab2
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 6:30:45 PM
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| When i sell a horse i always choose the home that i think will be best for the horse even if that home is not offering as much money, i always ask that people keep in touch ( i have made some good friends this way )and i always ask if i can be told if the person has to sell so i can buy back if possible ( i have a mare we bred that i have bought back twice bless her). Nobody can offer a forever home, as we do not always know what is round the corner , my friend was killed in a car crash and the horses had to be sold, but there are some lovely homes out there. Good luck whatever you decide. |
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nissibay
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 6:39:27 PM
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| Feel for you, if its not fiancail reasons id keep her, or loan her out to the right perosn or even better im sure there are lots of knowlegable people who cannot finacially afford a horse but would love to help you out and bring her on with you too when you do get free time, then she can stay with you but still be learning new things.. good luck xxx |
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Caro23
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 7:28:23 PM
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I really sympathise -I sent my ad in for my girl and felt sick and couldn't sleep so I had to get the ad removed.
Sending a hug! |
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Caro23
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 7:31:49 PM
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I really sympathise -I sent my ad in for my girl and felt sick and couldn't sleep so I had to get the ad removed.
Sending a hug! |
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Holly
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England
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 10:13:35 PM
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| Caro- i did exactly the same thing...my mare was on the sale pages for less than 24hrs when i took her off....i was a complete wreck! |
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natntaz
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England
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Posted - 16 Apr 2010 : 11:16:43 PM
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Thanks for your help ladies, I went down after writing
on here and looked at her and thought how could i possibly
sell her  . She is everything in a horse that i love except
i prefer geldings but that appart she is so very very beautiful
I would be mad to sell her but i know deep down it is prob for the best as i struggle. I will just make myself set aside
a little time each day but if the right person comes along i will sell her and only if. Yes i could do with the money but that
aside i will sort myself out and only do what is right for her
My horses have always come first. I think lots of us if we are
really honest cant really afford them but we find a way. They
are still spoiled and want for nothing  I just sometimes feel
that if i could find someone to really love her that would be
nicer so have decided to advertise her and see if that special person comes forward. After talking to a friend i feel its the
right thing to do.But if the right person doesnt come along i will
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Edited by - natntaz on 17 Apr 2010 10:19:54 AM |
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Debbie
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 17 Apr 2010 : 10:34:19 AM
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I almost sold my foal this year (without advertising) and then it fizzled out and I am so delighted because she is lovely, fantastic personality and lifts my spirits to watch her cavorting and springing around. Particularly as I have sold my beautiful 4 yr old to Norway (again without advertising) and yesterday had a real down day when I was informed the bank transfer had been done. I am reeling slightly from wondering how I got to beleiving she was with me for life as I bred her, to now organising to take her up to Ruger next week before she is transported to her new home!
So....if in doubt don't do it!
Thought I would just add that my mare is going to the most superb home and her last arab was with ner for 17 years. Also nice that there will be an Adawy daughter and fingers crossed a Ruger baby in Norway next year. |
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taranstorm
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Posted - 17 Apr 2010 : 11:01:21 AM
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Feeling the same,lack of time is diffcult to ride more as you want or time especially if you got kids! Still unsure whether advert my parnter's allrounder mare and allrounder gelding on here as got to be right permanet home who will love them as much as i do,diffcult choices! 
Wish i could find the perfect owner without feeling guilty as knowing will go on do more then i can offer them! |
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s.jade
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Posted - 17 Apr 2010 : 1:36:48 PM
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This is how I have 4 sat idling away in the field - allegedly "wasted" (Yeah, try telling them that, they will just smile!). The right homes haven't come up as yet, however the space to keep them on is no issue so until the right people come up for them, here they shall stay
My first purebred mare is leaving for her new home next weekend, she wasn't advertised for sale and to be honest I was happy to keep her as have had her almost 7 years now, but a lovely lady who bought her son fell head over heels with her and she will have the best home imagineable
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Kharidian
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England
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Posted - 17 Apr 2010 : 4:29:08 PM
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My now deceased YO used to say "I've never met a horse with ambition" - basically, if the horse is happy & well cared for then she won't feel she's "wasted".
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Kharidian (Prince Sadik x Khiri)........ Alkara Cassino (H Tobago x Rose Aboud)
aka "Roger".................................... aka "Chips"
     
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natntaz
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England
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Posted - 17 Apr 2010 : 8:54:46 PM
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I just think its so hard, I am on a yard with lots of people
who look after there horses but i know there are people out
there that dont look after them as we have all hurd the horror
stories. I will not rush into anything, I would also make sure
as much as possible that it is the right home. That said i might
not get any calls which will make the dicision for me |
Natalie Pix. Essex. Tariq ibn Radfan and Taroub |
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carrie b
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England
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Posted - 17 Apr 2010 : 10:43:52 PM
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Glass half-full or glass half-empty? If you're advertising here, chances are buyers will be looking for the sort of horse you want (maybe) to sell.
Think positive. I bought my lovely and now totally spoilt stallion through Arabianlines, and subsequently his gelded son, equally spoilt and loved. I may need to think about selling the stallion in the future as his daughters come up, but hopefully I will find a way round it as, having broken him to ride, he is such a great riding horse.
Just believe that there are buyers out there who really want to offer a good and loving home to your baby, and can give her all the advantages that at present you might find difficult.
I know. It's hard to believe. I have a home-bred 18mth old anglo/arab gelding who is just so sweet I can't bring myself to think about selling him. But I keep telling myself that somewhere out there is the one person who will be his partner for life and how could I deprive him of that.
Just be sure your sales agreement gives you right of first refusal in the event of subsequent sale, and good luck.
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natntaz
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England
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Posted - 18 Apr 2010 : 07:51:10 AM
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Thanks carrie, I do know there are great owners out there
and thats what i want for her. She has had a lovely life
up till now and i know she has so much to offer someone.
I just dont want someone just to buy her just because she
is pretty and then not look after her. I have had this in
the past and ended up buying my old mare back twice.
I want someone who wants to have and enjoy her and give her
very lovely life. I was there at her birth. I sold her sister
a couple of years back and the first person who bought her
didnt keep her but luckily she ended up being bought by a
close friend of mine which is a fantastic home and she will
want for nothing with them I only sold the last one because
i knew she wasnt going to be big enough for myself or my daugher
I bought her mum in foal. I hate selling horses. I just really
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Natalie Pix. Essex. Tariq ibn Radfan and Taroub |
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bridie
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 18 Apr 2010 : 3:26:42 PM
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I wont sell a horse ever again......I mistakenly sold our lovely young gelding to a "forever" home only to get an email to say he had been sold on to someone else......had I known I would have bought him back, but wasnt given the option!!! I have asked that the new owners are given my contact details so that I can stay in touch but all I get from the woman who brought him from us is " he is in the very best home" nothing else.
I would have him back in a heartbeat as he was a lovely little chap....I thought he was wasted here too.....but now, in hindsight I wish he was here idling his life away!!!!
I sold to the very best home......but still he got sold on!!! Never again.
Really hope you decide to keep her.....she will reward you for it in the end. |
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