So sorry to read such sad news. I don't know Cheryl either, but having lost my own husband to Cancer nine years ago I know how she must be feeling. Time is a healer and makes the loss easier to cope with.
So very sorry to hear your sad news Cheryl. Tony is at peace now and will have left many happy memories of the time you have shared together, which hopefully will ease you through this very sad time
And also with you Cate. I lost my dad nearly 7 years ago to cancer, and time does make it easier, but sometimes it still hits you like a ton of bricks, like on his birthday tomorrow.