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mittens
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 Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 10:53:44 AM
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I am SOOOOOOOOOO nervous; been out of work for years what with one thing and another and am now about to become a support worker. Can't believe how scared I am of being crap at it and letting people down I actually cried when I'd put the phone down from the woman who rang....how stupid am I being??!! They're only people but I have an inate fear of failure which ,akes me try too hard which in turns makes me extra self-conscious! Words of wisdom be appreciated! 
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avanti
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 10:57:20 AM
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Well done Mittens, I'm sure you'll be fine, as you get used to your job your self esteem will rocket,
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BeckyBoodle
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 10:58:58 AM
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Best of luck, I am sure you can do it. Calm happy thoughts and deep slow breaths is what I try to tell myself. Just do your best and I am sure that will be more than enough.
I understand the self conscious thing. When I last used to work in London, people passing me on the street must have thought I was mad. All the way to the train I would be having a diatribe at myself for all the things I felt I had done wrong that day.
From a shiatsu perspective, breath in for four counts and out for seven. Or you can try rubing the palm of your hand or the end of your middle finger - although not too manically, or you will be shipped off to the funny farm! The other thing that is good with the kids (but done in private) is to breath in as you raise you arms above your head, then with your palms facing the ground bring your arms slowly down as you breath out. This is supposed to help bring your energy down and stop you being too much in your head.
Failing that a glass of wine or something stronger when you get home might help!]
Good luck.
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barbara.gregory
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 10:59:29 AM
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I am sure you will be fine. If you think it will help tell the person who is showing you the ropes how nervous you are as you haven't worked for years (don't say you have been out of work, just not worked).
Well done for getting the job and I am sure you will love it. Even those of us who have never been out of work are aprehensive when starting a new job.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
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shah
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 11:42:16 AM
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Well done on getting a new job!! Don't worry too much about starting, everyone around you will know it takes time to get used to the new routines. Making lots of cups of tea helps getting to know people and make them appreciate you 
I started a new job too on Monday this week and felt like a twenty year old again being the 'new girl on the block'  It's always nervous to start somewhere new, meeting lots of new people (there are over 500 people in the building I work and just finding my way around is a major hurdle at the moment!!!), but everyone I've met this week have been great - and I still can only remember the name of my boss (important!!) and the girl at the desk next to me!!! |
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jillandlomond
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 1:23:00 PM
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It's a new adventure mittens.....go enjoy it! |
    
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angelarab
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 2:50:19 PM
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WELL DONE
My Dad is a support worker foy young adults with ausism etc, he felt the same, he has gone from having heavy labour jobs welding etc, then broke his back. since he has started this work he is actully more confident as a person and tells me on the phone how proud he is of his students and knowing he makes a little difference to another persons life.
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Gerri
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 4:32:02 PM
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| Well done< they obviously thought you were best for the job!!!! have faith in yoursef, others do!!! well done though its brilliant I am really pleased for you |
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mittens
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 7:38:34 PM
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| OOOH! you're all so lovely!!This again heightens how good a site this is in ALL ways,(nearly said that in one word but didnt want to sound like a pant liner!!)Very encouraged by all your lovely words. I will be working with a broad spectrum of students...dementia,autism, downs syndrome etc and I know from the day I spent as a volunteer how rewarding the job is. After losing Dad last year,Grandad before that and losing 2 family businesses and yard/lorry etc I felt I needed a totally selfless career which I could utilise all the skills I mustered looking after aforementioned rellies and be happy not to earn mega bucks but to enhance the lives of others |
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Goldenmane
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Posted - 03 Jun 2009 : 7:46:23 PM
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With your wicked sense of humour you cannot but be great....  |
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precious
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 12:57:06 PM
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Montikka
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Posted - 04 Jun 2009 : 1:24:36 PM
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Mittens, you'll be brilliant, just try to believe it. You have the right compassion and empathy and have chosen a path that will use your attributes.
I know just what you mean about wanting to be perfect and anything short will not do - you are too hard on yourself. I am guessing, but did you grow up with quite a lot of critism? This has perhaps made you hyper-sensitive to being judged - but it also makes you perfect for being 'tuned-in' to other people with difficulties.
Try talking to yourself the way you would to someone else: I bet you'd be kind and supportive - AND not expect perfection. It's such a shame we can't always be kind to ourselves and are our own 'worst enemy'.
Try to turn your nerves into excitement - GOOD LUCK - you'll be great
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