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white bryony
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 Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 10:16:28 AM
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For those of you who remember my last thread a couple of months ago regarding my boyfriend with the drink problem,
I am now pleased to say after everyones advice and after another argument, I plucked up the courage and broke up with him 
Nothing had changed so one day when I couldnt lend him money and he told me to **** of home, I did, its now been nearly 3 weeks, and yes he has been in touch recently, wanting me back promising this and that and being really nice, but im not having any of it!
Im much happier on my own. Its been difficult but not as difficult as when I was with him.
It can be done and I feel a little stronger, it all helped when I told my mum he was pestering me, and I felt alot safer. I dont think he would have done anything to me.
My phone is constantly on silent tho so he cant disturb me at night. One night he turned up at my house over wk end but as my phone wasnt on loud I didnt realise till the morning once he had gone
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LadyB
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 10:23:06 AM
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| Woo Hoo!!!!! Well done you!! I know it is tough but you have totally done the right thing, and things can only get better now!!! Well done again, I am really happy for you.... |
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pascoe
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 10:26:04 AM
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| WELL DONE YOU... BIG HUGS, its really tough the 1st few weeks, but you have so done the right thing. You will be so much happier with out him in the long run. You only get one crack in life, make the most of it. Go out an enjoy being young free and SINGLE WHOO HOOO.... |
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baxter
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 10:28:53 AM
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Takes guts and you are very brave.... it'll get easier and easier i promise.
In the meantime, just relax and lets things be and THEN get out there and enjoy yourself!
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Rozy Rider
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 10:32:22 AM
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| Plenty more fish in the sea, we've all been there and from experience I can only say, you've done the best thing, some great bloke will be just around the corner waiting for you. I had several romances and never met Mr Right till I was in my thirties, ended up marrying the bloke from next door, and after 30+years wed, I can only say, plenty more fish in the sea..Good Luck to you. Sue |
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NUTTER
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 10:58:46 AM
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Well done you.. were all here only once its not a rehersal so we must all be as happy as we can...
Plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and its true.. been there and dumped the trash also lost alot but my boy and i came out of it alright .. i also ended up with and marrying my lodger!!!
19 years on cant believe i married such a prat the 1st time round!! |
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lovehorses
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rosyw
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 12:14:12 PM
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WELL DONE!!! so glad you've finally got rid of him. I know it can be really hard, but as you say, you are much happier now |
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geegee
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 12:28:31 PM
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I'm so pleased that you found the courage to leave. Things will get better and better for you now.
Stay strong and look forward.
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white bryony
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 12:35:31 PM
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Thanx for your replies!
To anyone out there, it really can be done wether your strong or not.
I just put it in my head that when I left that was that, I ignored all his phone calls until he put credit on his phone and txt me, I have txt him but have been firm and made sure he is aware that is it between us.
A good friend of mine is married to a nasty man, but she wont leave him, unfortianately she wont listen to anyone |
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avanti
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Kirsty5278
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 1:09:32 PM
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| good for you.... a positive new begining for you!!! |
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ashabarab
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 2:29:00 PM
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well done...l am so very pleased for you
from now on your life can only get better
and now you have to meet MR RIGHT [who will love horse, look like brad pit and be mega loaded..well two outa three will do]
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nikki
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natntaz
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 7:01:36 PM
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nicolanapper
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Posted - 10 Jul 2008 : 9:01:50 PM
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Good on you girl, brave decision but you will be pleased you made it, trust me!!!!
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aderyn
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Posted - 11 Jul 2008 : 01:24:51 AM
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Emma - well done you are better off without him please stay strong dont let your guard down and go back to him! Fom a blokes point of view - you are one in a million - Tell you something if I was in the market for a partner I would love to meet someone like you - a survivor - oh yeah would have to change prefences as well Lol! But seriously though a few years ago a friend of mine female was married to a guy who on the surface was Mr Nice Guy - but behind closed doors was a b'std he used to kick **** out of her and treat her like dirt - eventually I persuaded her to leave him - think I've told you before she bought a house without him knowing and just left him - but alas the silly cow - went back to him a few months later - last time I saw her she was still with him and from what I could gather back in the same position that she was before - please tell us all in time that you ahve moved on met a wonderful guy and live happily ever after. Thumbs up to you kid theres a big wide world out there and plent of men for the taking.
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delly-b
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Posted - 11 Jul 2008 : 4:53:30 PM
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Well done to you.... its very funny I thought about you the other day when someone at work was telling about her friend who is in a similar situation...
I hope you can keep strong, and look forward to the good times ahead...
All the best, Adele xx |
       
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ali bali
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Posted - 11 Jul 2008 : 6:18:11 PM
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Well done you for making the break, its a hard thing to do. You have to kiss a lot of frogs in life to find your prince and you won't manage to find him if you waste half your life sticking with a toad like that!
It might take time to find Mr Right (27 years in my case  ) but its always worth the wait . And you can have some fun looking too now youre single..... 
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Totalrookie
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Posted - 11 Jul 2008 : 9:28:33 PM
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| Go sister! Well done for having the b*lls to walk away - you're worth so much more than he has to offer. Stick to your guns! |
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mittens
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Posted - 12 Jul 2008 : 8:12:03 PM
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| Having the same dilemma only I drink too in order to try to make sense of it all. Just recently lost my dad and my OH is constantly hassling me for you know what, even 2 days into our holiday (which HE wanted) he was on about it.Really wish I was brave too some days.How can I find him attractive when he's slurring his words ans and making me feel like an object. He even said he wouldnt mind me lapdancing to bring some money in.Doesnt he know of the extras they are asked to perform? Think I'm going slightly mad. Sorrry to quash the good vibe but didnt want to start my own thread really.WELL DONE YOU THOUGH!!Hope I come to the right decision soon as you did. |
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TC
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Posted - 12 Jul 2008 : 8:40:58 PM
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| That was me 6 years ago.He didnt just like a drink,he was an alcoholic....It took me ages to finally believe what everyone was sick of saying to me....that he was no good for me and my year old son....I made the break and now Im happily married with 3 year old twins to add to our family.My husband is wonderful...so wonderful that he offered me a horse or an engagement ring and thats how I ended up with my arab.....Ach Diamonds would have scratched my saddle for gawds sake!!!!!!You did the right thing and well done for doing it |
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