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janine87
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England
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 Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 8:56:34 PM
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Hiya,
Please help!. I decided to sell one of my mares as i love them both soo much be she is so good , anyone can ride her ( as long as they ride her with a long rein!) so feel someone could love and have alot of fun with her.
I'm not made of money and paying for 2 horses is hard even not counting day to day livings but insurance £600+ a pair , shoes £100+ everything doubles!.
I found a lovely lady who rode her really well and seems really nice but a week into it i paniced and didn't want her to leave - its breaks my heart as i love her to bits so called it off - the lady was lovely but said for me to think about it , if i still felt the same by monday just to re-turn the deposit and she will start looking again , at the time i was so happy to be keeping her but now i'm starting to think should i be selling her.
Keeping her i have NO money and owe out and if i didn;t have her i could go on a ranch holiday or travel abit something ive always wanted to do but i just worry so much she will be unhappy or may be sold on for more money ( as i REALLY under priced her) but just wanted the right people to come a long that would love her - not want to compete heavy with her etc.
Ahh - sorry for ramble! x
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akitamom
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England
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 8:59:10 PM
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| Why not sell her then BUT with a contract that if she is to be sold on she is sold back to you for the same money you sold her for. |
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janine87
Bronze Member
England
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 9:02:01 PM
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| Do you think someone would agree to that? Ive never heard about people doing that? Thanks |
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barbara.gregory
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 9:16:05 PM
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I think that would be a totally unreasonable condition and I certainly wouldn't agree to that if I was buying a horse.
What if the new owner makes her a ridden champion and has a couple of super foals from her and then is ill and has to sell her. Do you think it is fair that you could buy her back for the price she bought her for especially as several years on the price she paid will be worth even less due to inflation?
If you like the person who wants to buy her you could put in a clause that she comes back to you for the same price if she is sold within six months of purchase. I go by my gut instincts when I sell a horse and so far almost everyone I have sold to (I don't sell many) heve been super and I get photos and updates on my "babies".
Good luck whatever you decide but if you are struggling to pay your bills what happens if you have to move to a more expensive livery yard or you lose your job. Food for thought.
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rosyw
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England
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 9:20:31 PM
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| I would be askig myself how much I really want that ranch holiday etc., then think how much I care for the mare. The holiday will be gone in next to no time but the mare could be with you for life. If you want the best of both worlds why not advertise for a sharer, the mare still belongs to you, you have control of what happens to her, she stays with you, but you have the advantage of someone paying some of the bills. Just a thought. |
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lady tee
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 9:24:56 PM
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Sometimes its hard and we all go through different phases in our life , we have hard times when money is short and then good times when we are slightly more flushed with money. I had to make a hard sacrifice and sell my filly cos of finacial and private problems, but please only you can make that decision and no one else, when you have been through it you know the score, do whots best for you and the horse. Good luck with whot you decide. |
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Nuttybabez
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England
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 10:17:09 PM
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Loan sounds like an option - no bills but you retain ownership?
I did sell a pony on the agreement that I would have first refusal if she did ever decide to sell. She kept him for 6 months and then wanted double what she bought him for as he had been doing well at gymkhana games (Which I taught him). He was not a young pony and she had not really improved him, just enjoyed the success after I put in the work. I was furious as I had hoped she would keep him much longer. |
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arabic
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England
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 10:21:18 PM
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Hmmm difficult but I think perhaps I would foresake the holiday and bit of travel. Mind you thats easy for me to say, I havent had a night away since I took Freddie on 6 years ago!!
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nicolanapper
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England
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 10:25:36 PM
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Very hard decision for you to make. About 10 years ago, I was in your situation, I was offered a lot of money for a warmblood mare I had, I dithered and initially said yes, then changed my mind (likeyou I panicked). The 6 months later, after loaning her, again a change of circumstance and I had to sell her and only got a third of the original money I was offered. The money did not count as much as the idiot I felt I made of myself. If I had sold her for the original price the person who wanted to buy her would have offered her a super home. I gave up that chance for her. I kept her, loaned her, then the change of circumstance happened and she was sold for peanuts. She in the meantime got moved from pillar to post. Just think long and hard about your decision. Maybe your mare would be better off with this lady?!
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janine87
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England
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Posted - 08 Jul 2007 : 10:50:21 PM
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Hiya,
Thanks for all replys!
It really is one of the hardest choices but i feel i am doing the right thing letting her go. My heart wants me to say no , keep her so everythings safe etc but i feel and i know it sounds mean but that i am doing nothing for myself either.
All my friends are heading back to Uni etc after the holidays but i will just be at home and won't be able to go many places as all my money/time is looking after the horses but if she was sold i can pay what i owe back and could look into doing a Gap Year effect where you can work on a ranch is austraila (for example) for 4-12months which would be such an amazing exsperince and i feel i should do stuff like that while i'm young and don't have kids etc but i just don't want to do it at my horses exspensive of happiness!
Janine xxx |
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nicolanapper
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Posted - 09 Jul 2007 : 10:42:21 AM
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Janine I think you have made the right decision. At least you have found a lovely home for your horse. Although I know you will be upset when she goes, a part of you will also be relieved too.
As you say, you are young, you have your whole life ahead of you, if you cannot go out and have some fun now, believe me it gets much harder to find that freedom when you are older like me !!!
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barbara.gregory
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Posted - 09 Jul 2007 : 9:00:13 PM
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Hi Arabic
Gosh, no night away in six years. Keep going, you have a long way to go before you catch up with me. I haven't had a holiday for NINETEEN years; it is like getting a limpet off a rock to prise me away from the horses. I did stay at Malvern a couple of years ago and my filly had a colic; never had one before or since but just didn't want me to ever think about staying away again. I spent all night on the phone to my husband as it was too far to get home and the vet had been and gone and husband isn't horsey so he was in a panic.
All ended well but they (the horses) told me not to even think about deserting them again!!!!!
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arabic
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Posted - 09 Jul 2007 : 9:23:16 PM
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Hi Barbara, Thanks for that, I can settle down now in the knowledge that I only have at least another 13 years ahead of me lol!! So far things have conveniently cropped up keeping holidays away from home at bay. OH deserves a holiday after all we have recently been thro but again fate has played into my hand as he has just started a new job and having already taken compassionate leave - cant ask for anymore. Guess I am destined to stay put and look after Freddie.
Janine - I do agree with Nicky, you are young with all your life ahead, plenty of time for horse sitting when you have had some fun. As long as you know she is loved and cared for, you can't ask for more. Break away and enjoy yourself whilst you can. Plenty of time to follow in mine. Barbara's and I expect a fair few others footsteps!
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janine87
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England
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Posted - 10 Jul 2007 : 12:08:52 AM
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Hey,
Thanks Sandie and everyone who has replied!. I have decided to sell her , the lady is so nice she even said i can come and stay with them for a few days if i ever want to come and see her - you can;t really ask more than that!.
I think this lady will be lovely for her and like you said i can get out and about in the world abit why i still can!
Janine xxx
Will keep you all updated if i found any good ranches aboard or anything exciting! |
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nicolanapper
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Posted - 10 Jul 2007 : 2:45:42 PM
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Janine, thanks for keeping us posted. You certainly seem to have found a lovely new home for her. Well done!!
Nicky |
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arabic
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sarahlock
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Posted - 10 Jul 2007 : 4:22:08 PM
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Hi Janine ,
Which mare are you selling , is it the Palomino ?
Well if it helps i had to make that decision aswell as i have three of them !
I`ve realised that i really cant afford to show my yearling coloured filly to its full potential as i also have Jazzi her 1/2 sister who is now 9yrs old & has only ever been shown under saddle twice !
It just seems such a waste & i need to concentrate on jazzi instead of trying to juggle who i can/cant or should take to the show !
Especially as i dont have any horse transport now & am a single parent .....its just not easy .
This is the first "homebred one" that i have sold (the 25 yr old pally i bred is on loan to my friend`s mum)!
Flicka is in the process of being sold to a lovely lady in Milton Keynes who i know will show her & do her justice & thats just the home that i wanted to find her but even so i know that when she goes off down the road in the lorry i will be balling my eyes out  ...
& probably for days !
I`d be no good as a breeder , i`d have 100s of horses !! ha ha
Honestly i cant even watch Lassie or Black beauty films without crying .
But i know that Flicka will be fine & when helen shows her & does well, it will make me happy !
Sarah X
Flicka 4 weeks old & Me !
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