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d.pratchett
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 Posted - 29 Nov 2003 : 12:46:27 PM
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It is a sad day, that i feel that i have to post this......
Why is it that a certain individual has to take a general conversation out of context, adding arms and legs? Will it ever stop?
I doubt it... so im here to publicly apologise for things which have been twisted, and taken the wrong way.
1, On a previuos post re:Assad. We have used the term 'we', meant by us, as a collective group of friends,NOT as we own that particular horse. We wish her owners every success with her, that we're sure she will have.
2, The arab horse as a breed, is a real passion for all involved with them, but there is a limit to how much back stabbing you can take.
We dont tarnish everone with the same brush as we have meet some wonderfull people through the bred.
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Serin
Platinum Member
United Kingdom
1792 Posts |
Posted - 01 Dec 2003 : 12:20:24 PM
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| Sorry but you have completely lost me !! |
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razgold
Platinum Member
USA
1576 Posts |
Posted - 01 Dec 2003 : 3:13:26 PM
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Im sorry but I don't know what your problem is, but is it worth giving up something you love just because some selfish person is back stabbing? I say to hell with them and if they can't put their money were their mouth is then they should keep quiet!!!!!! And you should ignore them. It hurts more for them any way.
Sue
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emma
Gold Member
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Posted - 01 Dec 2003 : 3:41:13 PM
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Me too im lost aswell. But on another note i think you were the person who said they had Balenca's filly, i would love to see a photo if you have one and hear how she is getting on. I asked Carol to bring one to Aachen for me to see but she didnt have any photos.
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k brown
Gold Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 01 Dec 2003 : 6:05:44 PM
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Whats all this about then!!
one day your a rooster the next a feather duster. |
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bridie
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United Kingdom
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Serin
Platinum Member
United Kingdom
1792 Posts |
Posted - 01 Dec 2003 : 7:55:32 PM
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| You have to believe in yourself and your Dreams and to hell with anyone else !! |
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razgold
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Wyllow
Platinum Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 01 Dec 2003 : 9:35:05 PM
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I agree with that.
Not that I have the faintest idea what this is about ~ but it's posted with a lot of frustration and hurt...and I'm sorry you feel as you do just now.
It's NOT everyone else's opinion that counts about you and what you believe in ~ it's YOURS ~ YOUR opinion of yourself and what you want to do.
We don't matter as much to other people as you'd think and five minutes after they are moaning about you...I have to say it, you'll be "old news" and they'll find someone else to complain about!
People and their "backstabbing" comments just reflect badly upon themselves.
If you are bothered what others think, then think on this ~ that other people will tend to remeber the bitchiness and nastiness a person displays, rather than the person who is the subject of their whinging!
Mind you ~ that's as long as they don't have a real reason for it.
Don't let others get you down. As long as you know you're blameless, then you're ok, it's the others who have the problem!
Believe in yourself and enjoy your horses and close your ears to silly comments.
Hope things improve for you.
~Wyllow |
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Wyllow
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 01 Dec 2003 : 9:41:31 PM
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Just to say again...I may be speaking out of turn as I haven't the foggiest what it's all about...I just hate to see anyone hurt as a result of "talk"...just saying what I'd say in a situation where the aledged "backstabbing" was for no real reason.
Anyway, if someone takes issue with another person, surely it's better to take them to one side and have it out calmly, one to one?
Actually, that's one sure fire way to stop "talk" ~ challenge the individual and ask what their problem is?
If it's a real greivance, then there is a chance to sort it out...if it's all over nothing, there will probably be an instant end to it.
I really hope the situation resolves itself quickly and completely.
~Wyl |
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Wendy Allan
Silver Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 09:08:05 AM
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Gosh, Wyllow, where did you get all your common sense from? You were surely first in the queue when it was being handed out.
I also have absolutely no idea what all this is about, but I have followed the thread out of nosiness to see if anything would be made clearer. Whatever has happened has deeply hurt you, but you really ought to follow the advice given by Wyllow and quietly, calmly confront the person who has made you feel this way. I hope that the messages of support help you to do this and let you enjoy showing again. |
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heatherr
Platinum Member
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 09:31:46 AM
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I remember from my days of showjumping as a kid the bitching and back stabbing were quite upsetting sometimes, but the thing to remember is that the nasy folk that engage in such anti social behaviour are usually doing so out of jealousy, as they are too ignorant to know what else to do.....
Heather 
 
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suyents
Platinum Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 11:42:32 AM
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Hello Darren,
Like most of the above, i dont know who you are referring to, but i will tell you this, over the many years of showing i have always been dismayed by the people who you think of as close friends who then end up lying to you, cheating with you and castigating you behind your back. There are also many people out there who support you, give of their last iota of strength and encourage you when all the odds are against you. I know!! Whatever the situation with you is, treat the people who are "stabbing you in the back" with the contempt they deserve...everyone will soon work out what their true colours are, because the horse world is like that, in time, what goes around comes around...So dont give up on your horses just to satisfy someone else and leave them feeling smug...If you feel you are right then stick to your guns. In the end, we all have only ourselves to answer for. Best of luck.
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suneanarab
Platinum Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 2:47:49 PM
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ummm....i to have no idear what has gone on....but...i know from very near experience what you are going through.
it never surprises me anymore, just when you think you have genuine friends, they stab you in the back. what does surprise me is how people who don't know you can jump on the band wagon.
however, if it's any comfort, there are people out there who are very genuine friends and will stand by you, stick up for you against the uneducated, and always be there for you.
give up if you must but do it for you, not what some other fool has said or done!
suzanne walsh
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Indalo
Silver Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 3:00:14 PM
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Darren
If I was you this what ever has happened would make me more determind. I have never experience this kind of behaviour directed at me within the Arabian world. Although I have heard some very nasty comments about a very good friend of mine from the ringside when they were judging.
It's probably hard for you at this time, but if you have been enjoying what you were doing carry on don't regret not doing so in the future!
Cheers
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Libby Frost
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 4:33:19 PM
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| Hello everyone! i don't know what's going on here either! And i've read the Assad post etc on page 8 and still none the wiser! If you think someone has said something out of place ,TELL EM!!?? I must be thick or something because i could'nt see any thing spiteful written there. |
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SueB
Platinum Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 5:44:33 PM
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Darren,
Please don't give up on your horses. You have been brave enough to go out and compete with the best, do try to continue. You obviously are good at your job if you felt happy about the shows?
Whatever has been said by whom, or what has been said, is past.
You don't have to be thick skinned, just ignore any rumours, because that's just what they are. Everyone knows that there is some degree of gossip anywhere, all you can do is ignore it.
Remember, everyone will have forgotton all about what ever was said, by bringing it up on an open forum you are in danger of making it something it wasn't?
Hope you will develop an extra layer of skin!! on your back helps and really hope you will continue to show those horses next season.
Sue...x |
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goldie
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goldie
New Member
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Posted - 02 Dec 2003 : 10:10:35 PM
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Re the discussion on this topic from d.pratchet.
As a mutual friend i feel i must point out that remember there is always to sides to a story, and i feel that the person not named is getting a very raw deal. I cannot discuss to much as the other person has taken legal action. (dont believe all you read)
rgds
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pat day
Moderator
United Kingdom
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Posted - 03 Dec 2003 : 06:17:27 AM
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At this point,
I think all posts should stop on this thread until Sean or Paula have seen which road it is heading.
If it starts to get naughty, we could be liable, so I am sorry to have to put my official hat on.
Thanking you all in anticipation for your cooperation.
Pat |
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barbara.gregory
Platinum Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 03 Dec 2003 : 10:07:43 AM
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I am now older and (I hope, wiser) and my attitude to this is that while they are talking about me they are leaving some other poor blighter alone and I am thicker skinned these days.
I have an Assad filly and have no idea what is going on here but if there is no cause for whatever is being said/done those that know you will soon put in their twopence worth in and at least you will find out who your true friends are. I don't have many "friends" as to me a friend is there in time of need and most of us only have a handful of those but there are an awful lot of nice people out there who don't judge on rumours. I always listen and take note but then I use my own knowledge and judgement to make my decision.
Hope all the trouble blows over and you can look forward to a super showing season next year.
Regards
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Anne C
Gold Member
United Kingdom
886 Posts |
Posted - 03 Dec 2003 : 10:33:26 AM
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Hi All,
I think I ought to second what Pat has said and that there should be no further comments on this thread for the time being, this is such a nice forum, it would be a shame for that to change.
Anne |
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