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| Kora |
Posted - 05 Jul 2012 : 3:22:41 PM
I did a very stupid action last week. I needed to get my horse HT Orient in quickly, as the Blacksmith was on his way. I had only just turned him out. He was having none of it so I took his feed bowl in to the field and hoped once he put his head in I could place the headcollar on. He told me basically to sod off, whizzed round and double barralled me with both hind feet. My husband found me half an hour later. He was initially horrified thinking I was dead as he saw me laying in the field. I was air lifted to hospital by helicopter . I suffered four broken ribs, a punctured lung and bruising.
Firstly, it was purely my stupidity as I know he has kicked out before when someone tried to put a head collar on him whilst feeding in the field. I have told people NEVER to do it. So what did I do, never thought of the consequences , and the inevitable happened. Secondly, yes he was naughty and it is unacceptable behaviour, he should not have done it. But horses are horses and I should have known better.
Since the incident my 75yr old husband has related the story and how he felt, to various well wishers,even becoming emotional and expressing his fear of what may have been.
Orion ( HT Orient ) is a beautiful Arab who has quite a strong temperament. We respect each other and I accept his little quirky mannersisms. Hmm!! thats because I adore him. I have had him for seven years now and he has given me such wonderful experiences and rides since I broke him as a 6 yr old. However, he will always be a fiesty animal ( temperament wise)and while I can handle him very easily, others are more cautious. But he can also be such a loving horse and we have spent many an hour just enjoying being close.
Cutting a long story short, it devastated me seeing my husband almost in tears and he now sees Orion in a totally different light. In other words he would like me to sell him. Alan told me when I do Endurance he cannot relax until I phone him telling him all is well. He feels the same even if I just hack out on my own. If anything happened to me how would he cope with two horses, 15 Alpacas, a Llama, 3 dogs etc
Orion is brilliant at Endurance and has won the EGB Lancashire Arab Cup for 3 years on the trot. We have completed every ride we have entered and never been vetted out. He oozes showmanship and also has many rosettes to his name in the show ring including a Supreme Champion. But I so reluctantly will have to sell him , mainly because my husband does not want the risk or possibility that I may be accidently injured again. He feels so anxious every time I am with Orion. I think all he can see now is a powerful animal that is capable of doing some serious harm. Looking back Alan also admitted whilst accepting Orion was indeed a stunning Arab he much prefers my old pony Huggy Bear who is like a Volvo car in relation to perhaps a Ferarri. Yet, I have only ever fallen off Orion twice in 7 yrs and once was when I lost my stirrup. He is a brilliant ride , safe, but forward going, and I am on such a high when I dismount . Yet this one incident , has caused such alot of stress and anxiety for Alan and heart break on my part.
Can you Arabian liners forgive me for being such a whuss. Some of you may criticise my actions, maybe I deserve it. My heart has always ruled my head where animals are concerned. But for once, when I listen to what my hubby feels like, and my twin sister ,who feels my pain,both my head and my heart say , try to rehome him. But it must be to a confident, loving new owner who can either take him further in the Endurance field or even re enhance his show career of which he was extremely successful at.
This is breaking my heart and the tears are flowing as I write this to you.
You also may wonder why I have not been on the forum for a long while. Both my parents have died of Cancer, my elder sister was diagnosed with Ovarian cancer 18 mths ago which has spread to her lungs and liver, and my twin sister is just recovering from Breast cancer. As we are twins I am having preventative surgery, and my next operation will be a full mastectomy later on this year. So we have had alot to occupy ourselves at present.
I do hope some of you can find it in your hearts to try and understand why I am doing what I have to do as I know others will possibly totally disagree .
Maybe when all this is over I may look for another Huggy Bear who at least will please hubby and twin sister.
Kora
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| Honeyb060674 |
Posted - 14 Jul 2012 : 10:40:11 AM
What a brave decision & I dont think anyone has the right to judge you, it's glaringly obvious how much he means to you.
He's such a lovely boy I don't doubt you'll find him a wonderful home...be picky you both deserve it
Good luck xxx
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| Arabianknights |
Posted - 14 Jul 2012 : 08:58:43 AM
I think it's important to remember that the reason we have horses is for pleasure and at the point where your horse brings worry or concern to you or your family, I think it's right to make the decision to find him a new home. I'm sure we all worry that we won't be able to find someone who will love or care for our beloved horses as much as we do but it is clear from Arabian Lines that there are lots of other wonderful horse owners out there who will look after your lovely horse. Therefore there is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty! I know you'll find him the perfect home and let's face it, as long as horses have a field full of grass and a horsey friend to keep them company, they're happy as Larry! |
| baymops |
Posted - 13 Jul 2012 : 10:28:35 PM
Hi Kora, do you remember me? I have the bay arab Mazeer, we have met a few times at Fylde Show. I don't come on here often and was just looking at the horses for sale and saw your advert. I must admit I wondered why you were selling him as I know what he means to you.
I'm so sorry to hear what has happened and as others say only you can make the decision and no one can criticise you for it. I have had a couple of serious injuries recently (not horse related) and my dad has taken over the care of Maz when I have been physically unable to do it. Without his help I would have been in your situation.
I'm not far from you, if you want to meet for a chat let me know.
Clare
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| Nicky F |
Posted - 13 Jul 2012 : 3:30:37 PM
There is absolutely no need to feel any guilt at all about selling him on after what you've been through. When we are younger, we can cope with things like this, you just kind of get over it and move on, but with everything that you've been through with your family lately and as you get that bit older, we don't mend so easily do we!
I will be 60 this year and I have taken a step back with my horse in recent months. We had a little accident a couple of years ago where he put me in hospital for a week (he trampled on me, not his fault, long story ...) and because I was on blood thinners at the time, they couldn't stop the internal bleeding and I nearly lost it ... I am now ok sort of when I ride (because the accident happened when I was on the ground), but still get nervous leading him in from the field specially when it's tea time and they're all milling round the gate ... I have now got a very understanding sharer who I was very lucky to find, so I haven't parted with my boy, but I know totally where you're coming from. It's not an easy decision at all, is it!
I'm sure you will find him a lovely new owner and please don't feel guilty, you're definitely doing the right thing! |
| Kora |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 9:05:40 PM
Oh Wibsie, please don't tell anyone how much I paid you to say those kind words...even if they are true !!
Kora
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| Goldenmane |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 7:47:17 PM
Kora, have just had time to skim through this and then see your beautiful boy on the sales..I'm sure he will go to the best home, not an easy decision for you but I can see why. X |
| Wibsie1 |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 5:14:05 PM
I am Kora's close friend. We also ride together regularly and I know how much this decision has affected her. She loves Orion and handles him sensitively & beautifully, which is why he has become the fantastic ride that he is. Her decision is entirely selfless and is heartbreaking for her but I (as a person who has handled Orion on a regular basis) fully understand her reasons and agree with them. I am so very glad that the vast majority (all but one) of people who've posted comments have made supportive ones. Anyone who knows her will confirm how much she loves all animals and adores her own. They are a priviledged bunch of creatures for sure. I hope the person who buys Orion will be able to fully appreciate his talents as well as his obvious beauty. |
| Eeyore |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 4:45:26 PM
He really is stunning and ridden arabs like him are not advertised very often!
Be proud that you have done your best by him in making him a lovely ridden horse. I hope he finds an owner who deserves him, I will be extremely jealous of whoever has the privilege.
I can't imagine how hard this is for you. |
| Kora |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 2:29:36 PM
Gosh! I am in tears again, and never a truer word Angelarab. Loosefur, thank you for that, money isn't really the issue here, it is the RIGHT home that is paramount.
There is a couple coming this weekend , they do sound lovely, they would like to have some fun, a little In Hand and also pleasure rides. And Harley, thank you, lets hope these people are that special home.
Kora
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| Harley |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 11:20:09 AM
Oh Kora, my heart feels for you. I have seen your advert on Arabian Lines. You ARE doing the right thing because you are thinking of your family AND Orion. He is still young and so much to offer the right home.
I hope someone out there reads your advert and thinks...wow, what a beautiful boy, already proven in a couple of disciplines, and with a bit of spice to add to the package, and that that person is a knowledgeable, experienced but loving being.
xx
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| angelarab |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 08:59:17 AM
 huge hugs to you x |
| loosefur |
Posted - 12 Jul 2012 : 12:28:57 AM
I don't come on here very often these days Judy but a friend mentioned your post about selling your boy. We rode together at Croal Irwell a few years ago and swapped a few emails. I've always loved your boy and if I had the money I'd snap him up in an instant. I think you've made a very brave decision and absolutely the right one. Heartbreaking for you but I am sure you will find him the perfect home and will be able to keep in touch with his new owner. He is such a lovely and talented boy. I'm so sad for you and everything you're going through right now - lots of healing vibes coming your way. If I hear of anyone I think might be suitable for Orient I will point them in your direction, it's certainly got to be someone very special but they will be out there xxx |
| sab2 |
Posted - 11 Jul 2012 : 9:26:06 PM
Gosh hes a lovely boy, somebody is going to be very lucky to have him, best of luck on rehoming him. |
| Sue J |
Posted - 11 Jul 2012 : 8:25:21 PM
Really feel for you Kora, he is a stunning horse, I hope he goes to the right home were he will be continue to do what he obviously loves doing. Good Luck
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| RUTHIE |
Posted - 11 Jul 2012 : 5:29:34 PM
I agree, absolutley stunning! What a beautiful horse. I hope he finds a new home that will love him as much as you do. Good luck, Kora.  |
| Kora |
Posted - 11 Jul 2012 : 5:04:53 PM
Well, he is now on the For Sale Site, you no doubt will agree he is such a stunning boy!
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| Offira |
Posted - 09 Jul 2012 : 12:50:27 PM
My goodness Kora, you have been through a lot and still more to come by the sounds of it. I hope this means good times for you are just around the corner. 
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| Kora |
Posted - 08 Jul 2012 : 9:51:39 PM
Miyaz, I do hear what you say, and HT Orient is NOT a dangerous horse but I do need to think strongly of my husbands thoughts. As Mrs DJ pointed out I am having a double mastectomy in a couple of months which means I must also not handle my horses for maybe a couple of weeks or so. Alan is so nervous now and I for him. There are only the two of us and I have to consider his feelings for once, put him first for once. And whilst I may be extremely distraught over this whole incident, it has not been an easy decision.
And thankyou Mrs DJ, for your kind words.
Kora
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| Mrs DJ |
Posted - 08 Jul 2012 : 9:13:46 PM
Originally posted by Miyaz
I don't normally post on here but I have to reply to this. You had an accident, they happen with or without horses, and you said yourself it was due to your own error of judgement. Is your horse really a dangerous horse? You say he's your dream horse so you obviously feel safe around him. How your family feel isn't fair or reasonable, proportionately to the amount of risk.
Unless you believe you are putting yourself in danger being around this horse, I don't think you should do this, you could get run over by a bus tomorrow,
Sorry, but I'm afraid I have to disagree. Yes, accidents happen every day, but sometimes you have no alternative but to try to lessen the risk. Kora explained in her OP that she also has health and family issues to deal with. If she's having surgery, who will have to handle him whilst she's recovering? Her husband? I don't know him, but at 75 I don't think he needs the stress of that, on top of worrying about his wife. JMO
Kora, I hope you find Orion a wonderful home, and all the best to you and yours for the future. x |
| Miyaz |
Posted - 08 Jul 2012 : 8:42:59 PM
I don't normally post on here but I have to reply to this. You had an accident, they happen with or without horses, and you said yourself it was due to your own error of judgement. Is your horse really a dangerous horse? You say he's your dream horse so you obviously feel safe around him. How your family feel isn't fair or reasonable, proportionately to the amount of risk.
Unless you believe you are putting yourself in danger being around this horse, I don't think you should do this, you could get run over by a bus tomorrow, |
| Kora |
Posted - 08 Jul 2012 : 5:36:59 PM
Gosh! so much support and understanding, I really can't believe how you have all gathered round and given me back some of my self esteem . I dislike myself , I felt awful thinking I have to find Orion a new home, is it fair to him, at the same time losing him is breaking my heart as he to be honest was and is my dream horse. Yet, I have made my decision and for Alans sake and sisters, and close friends , I have to stand by it. I realise and understand Kim ,finding the right home will not be easy as they have to convince me they will really try to understand his intelligent mind and if they can , someone will own such a magnificent horse. Well, in my eyes he remains so. It may take months but his next home MUST be a so totally right.
I truely respect all your opinions and thank you so much once again.
Kora
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| kim gasper |
Posted - 08 Jul 2012 : 2:20:02 PM
Hi Kora,
I read your post almost immediately you put it up. I wanted to reply there & then but had no time! & be the first person to re-assure you that far from being judged as doing the wrong thing by your lovely lad....I think you have been very courages in reaching your decision, in the knowledge that you will miss your lovely lad so much  My second thought was actually...."what a responsible lady you are, giving 1st consideration to horse, husband & family". So don't make this situation any harder on yourself than it NEEDS to be, but instead give yourself a huge pat on the back for educating Orion & expanding his life experiences by turning him into a (happy to be ridden!) Horse who clearly loves his work!
I have no doubt you will be able to find what you will consider to be the right home for him....tho' I think it may require a little time.
Regards, Kim |
| Arabianknights |
Posted - 06 Jul 2012 : 8:50:04 PM
I'd be very surprised (and disappointed) if anyone on AL was to "judge you". You're making the right decision and I'm sure you will find him a lovely home. |
| gossy |
Posted - 06 Jul 2012 : 7:33:25 PM
only you can make the decision, trade in OH seriously all should have a contigency plan for whatever eventually can happen when you have horses. |
| sab2 |
Posted - 06 Jul 2012 : 6:57:25 PM
Bless you what am awful situation to be in, i do hope that you are recovering well. I think that you are being very brave , i often worry if something happens to me that my OH wouldn,t cope, i am lucky that i have lots of friends who would help him out but its still a worry.
Orion i am sure will settle into a new life very happily, there are some lovely people out there who i am sure would love the chance of owning such a lovely boy.
Do not beat yourself up about this sometimes things just do not work out the way we want to so chin up and i hope your feeling better soon |
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