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| justine |
Posted - 26 Nov 2011 : 1:28:16 PM
My nan has become very unwell over the last months. She always came to my house on a sunday to help with kennels/stables and we had sunday lunches.
Over the last weeks she complained of stomach pain, piles, lack of appetite. So when she came on a sunday she just chilled.
Last week I insisted she go to the DR (also my DR).
She said, Ive got some pile cream and the stomach pain will subside.
As she is going deaf (when she wants) she doesnt answer the phone. 3x Ive jumped in the car and banged on the door to check shes ok. Found her still in PJ`s at midday, totally not her!
I text my GP, he told me we are waiting for specialist apt, then results. He told me to humour her and keep her going.
Made her show me the referal letter as I know she would never find the right place in hospital to attend, I will take her. She had kept this aptt from me.
2 days ago she looked so ill I asked her to go to hospital, she cant eat and barely drinks. She said, no they might keep me in and put needles in me. Poor nan is so scared.
Eventually took her to A&E, pointless exercise, they said drink water!
My sister has kids, nan adores them, so we persuaded nan to stay at their house for a few nights. Its brightened her up a bit.
Heres the worst part - Im pretty sure I know whats wrong, my GP, without breaking confidentiality, simply said `no one can say without tests but your a wise lady`.
My nan is very scared of `the end`, the `c` word would finish her. Her tests are on 2nd dec. Yesterday she had painful swollen legs and no urine. I told her its because she is resting and not active and she must drink lots of water or anything she wants.
Its a long time (days) til appt. then another week for results.
How can I keep her spirits up?
she said today, I just want to feel better, I said you will when they give you meds after the tests. She said they not using cameras on me or keeping me in hospital.
My heart is breaking for her. I want to protect her from pain/dr`s... shes only a 6 stone little frightened lady.
She`s 83, she brought me up from being 4yrs old. Grandad died at 58 from heart attack. Nan couldnt even write, I taught her how to go on in life. She soon got a grip and lived a lovely life alone. I have been her rock and have had to be firm with her and keep her little butt moving. If I change now she will know whats happening.
Any advise on how to deal with this would be much appreciated.
Im a wreck and I feel like the world is a different place but I have to get my face out of the sand and do my best for nan. Her daughter (my mother) is a vindictive, nasty, hurtful woman and an alcoholic. Yes, thats harsh but its the truth. She will be of no use whatsoever. My sister (27) is holding the fort quite well at the moment but its early days.
I know about all the help we could receive but if nan see`s a special nurse she will know and give up.
How can we hide this from her? :-( |
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| numbbum |
Posted - 09 Dec 2011 : 3:34:34 PM
Justine, only just read your thread and am so sorry to hear about your dear Nan's problems, although it sounds as if she is recovering and a remarkable woman. She is very, very lucky to have you around when so many of our OAP'S have no-one to care about them.It's very hard for you to witness her deterioration, but an honour to help her through it. You are lucky to have her in your life, which I'm sure you don't need reminding, even when she's being difficult!
Can I just say please get in touch with your Dad. I found out my Dad had passed over on the day of my mastectomy and I hadn't spoken to him for over twenty years, how I regret not making the attempt, at least, to contact him again. If it goes badly at least you will have the knowledge in your heart that you tried. Life is short. One word or hug can make all the difference. I hope Nan continues to improve. Love and blessings xxxxx |
| TanyanChewy |
Posted - 08 Dec 2011 : 12:58:19 PM
Goodness me only just seen this thread, been off line for a while.
Justine you are clearly going through the mill but your latest updates seem very positive, I'm so glad your nan has perked up.
Thinking of you, your nan & your dad
Lots of hugs x x x x |
| Pasch |
Posted - 07 Dec 2011 : 11:22:07 PM
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| garnet |
Posted - 07 Dec 2011 : 6:53:41 PM
My dearly loved godmother once described herself as 'a tough old bird' when I was worried about her and your nan is obviously another!  |
| Kelly |
Posted - 07 Dec 2011 : 6:18:22 PM
So happy for you and your nan Justine!!
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| Ennik |
Posted - 07 Dec 2011 : 6:07:38 PM
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| sab2 |
Posted - 07 Dec 2011 : 5:41:20 PM
Good old nan, bless her it seems like shes feeling a lot brighter, long may it continue, so pleased for you |
| justine |
Posted - 07 Dec 2011 : 5:37:30 PM
REMARKABLE!!!!!
Nan is being an old bag :) she is telling us off, asked me to take her clothes, not her clothes but NEW CLOTHES! she wants to look nice :) Bought half of M&S, BET I`ll get told off for choice and colours.
Means she is on the mend :) Dr s are pleased. She knows the score and tells us how she felt so ill she had know interest in life and knew she was passing very soon. She was not shocked when the Dr said she only had a few more hours and her grandaughter saved her.
Im so happy, I know its not over but I had know idea a stage 5 kidney failure could come back to life so quick and if at all.
So, off to Hospital now to get done or praised for clothes ha ha, oh and she`s even asked to see if Ive paid her bills, checked post, kept bungalow warm ...... of course nan!!!!
I remain optomistic this is a happy ending and its sooooo helped talking to you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx |
| Pasch |
Posted - 05 Dec 2011 : 9:21:58 PM
What can i say,feel sorry for you,be strong |
| JESSIEMAE |
Posted - 05 Dec 2011 : 8:03:02 PM
Oh Justine, don't know what to say but hope things pick up for Nan and you, lots of hugs 
Liza xx |
| sab2 |
Posted - 05 Dec 2011 : 4:31:57 PM
Justine what can we say, you are having such a tough time of it, have you kept in touch with your dad, if not nows the time to catch up, forgive and forget, sending you more huge big hugs, hows your nan today ? |
| justine |
Posted - 05 Dec 2011 : 3:46:38 PM
No Freaking way :(
My step mother is a sister on urology at the hospital my nan is at. I tracked her and called her to see if she could find more info on nan.
Now I find my dad is very ill!!! she said I should see him very soon (my mum and dad divorced when I was 4, I was brought up by my nan)
OUCH |
| Callisto |
Posted - 04 Dec 2011 : 9:05:12 PM
Actually the Audi might be ideal for the thick mud of your field - my A4 automatic 3 litre quattro pulled my pony and trailer out of a showground no problem, while people in shoguns etc. were having to be assisted by a tractor - and absolutely superb in the snow
Justine, sincerely hope that they find the cause of your poor little Nan's problems and treat her accordingly, huge hugs and stay strong. |
| sab2 |
Posted - 04 Dec 2011 : 5:15:56 PM
Justine my OH has just bought himself the same car, i borrowed it the other day to visit my mum, its lovely after driving my shogun, i did try to swap him but he did remind me the Audi would be no good in the thick mud of our field Keep your chin up for your nans sake, poor thing she is really going through it at the min , love and hugs to you both |
| justine |
Posted - 04 Dec 2011 : 2:21:30 PM
Correct Ennik.
I know some older generation refuse all the tests/dialysis/transfusions..... Im so glad my nan didnt. I dont think she really knows half of wahts going on. Dont get me wrong, she knows more about politics/royals etc than I ever would but she has never been faced with medical probs, only high BP. She took ages in supermarket with me pulling my hair out looking for cholesterol reducing foods, arhhhh! :)
She still thinks she has a kidney problem, maybe infection. I fact she has stage 5 failure, cause ? we dont know yet.
Can I just say a huge thank you to all that read and comment on my thread. Its a great relief to write it all down. Plus Thank you to AL.
Oh,  every time Im stressed I crash my car. BUMP straight into gate post when feeding horses in the dark. My poor car, had her 3 months and she is on her 3rd surgery (2 times not my fault, idiots in car parks bumping her). Its the car Ive wanted since the snow last year, so we pushed the boat out and bought one. Audi a6 allroad 3l turbo quatro, pimped with black windows and mega wheels and xenons. Love it! Looks like I better stick to my old VW dog transporting van til my brain gets fixed :)
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| basbob |
Posted - 04 Dec 2011 : 09:22:18 AM
So so sad Justine........ poor love ... |
| Ennik |
Posted - 04 Dec 2011 : 08:09:39 AM
[right]Originally posted by justine
What terrible things for her to have to go through at her age, my heart is breaking for her./quote]
Better for her to live in hope than die not having had tresatment .... if you get what what I mean ..... |
| Goldenmane |
Posted - 03 Dec 2011 : 10:47:19 PM
Stay strong and keep posting, (if you want) because our thoughts are with you and your nan. Sometimes our animals have to come second, but they don't mind. X |
| justine |
Posted - 03 Dec 2011 : 8:52:35 PM
Nans bloods came back worse today :(
Tomorrow she will have a blood transfusion and back on dialysis.
Monday she will have a kidney biopsy.
What terrible things for her to have to go through at her age, my heart is breaking for her.
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| george |
Posted - 03 Dec 2011 : 09:59:05 AM
I just wanted to say, still thinking of you and hoping for a good outcome, your Nan sounds like such a fighter, keep reminding her that!! |
| MinHe |
Posted - 02 Dec 2011 : 11:04:54 PM
Just caught up with this - hopefully things will go on better now your Nan is in hospital and they can tackle the dehydration problem which will have tended to make everything else more severe than it might otherwise have been. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Keren |
| Kharidian |
Posted - 02 Dec 2011 : 10:22:52 PM
Oh goodness, just caught up with this thread. I hope your nan starts to rally now she's on meds etc to give her the "oomph" to start fighting.
Caryn |
| Pasch |
Posted - 02 Dec 2011 : 10:10:32 PM
Justine you did all you could now she's having proper treatment,let's hope she bounces back,it's a good thing that she is feeling better in her mind and accepting all this anyway.Hugs. |
| RobinS |
Posted - 02 Dec 2011 : 4:13:55 PM
Hope things improve for your nan. It's heartbreaking but it's good that she is still with you and hopefully as pain free as she can be. |
| Ennik |
Posted - 02 Dec 2011 : 3:59:47 PM
...... doesn't sound good does it! Can only continue to think about you both ...... |
